YEA QUESTION FOR FRIDAY! It makes me very happy to come home from school, open a beer, do some laundry, and put together this post. It makes a great end to my week. Much love to all the contributors to this week’s question:
Now I thought everyone would take it for the joke it was :-), but I got some really great, serious answers. If you haven’t figured out by now, these totally match my personal life. Let me just pop another beer open and let’s talk about it:
- From Wolf of Back2Stonewall.com, via the blog: Hmmmm.
Well I’m going to come off sort of slutish here and say if both parties want to right away have fun and do it!
Whats “appropriate” to some aren’t “appropriate” to others but the thing is its not really any of the “others” business or right to say what is “appropriate”
So my answer is what feels best to both involved. It is a personal choice after all and no one should tell you how long you should wait or judge you if you don’t wait long to their standards.
There is no set “appropriate” time. One of my greatest loves and I hoped in the sack an hour after meeting and didn;t get out of it for 3 days and he was the love of my life. And we were together much longer than alot of people who did the “mating ritual”
- From Jere Keys of JereKeys.com, via the blog:When I was young, I had a two month rule. Then it became a one month rule, then there was no rule. These days, my answer depends on the type of relationship – if we’re talking about a Craigslist connection, there’s no waiting period. If we’re talking about a potential LTR based on real life connection, I’m more likely to go slow and wait until the pressure builds to the point where we can barely keep our hands off each other.
- From Joe, aka “OB4,” long time reader and dear friend, via the blog: Before the nights out!
Or before the clock strikes 12… - From Sara P., via Facebook: depends on what you are looking for!
- From Skyp C., via Facebook: I like Sara’s answer. 🙂
- From Lisa F., via Facebook: Depends on how you define appropriate
- From Shanell H., via Facebook: I don’t know. I’ve been holding out for six months with this guy and we’ve only been on 3 lunch dates but if I could I would give it up he’s just not ready for a relationship so I’m keeping it under lock and key, is that wrong?
- From Terri O., via Facebook: Appropriate? or things happens?..define sleep?..chemistry plays a big role in this..I’m gonna say in general a month of talking and spending quality time together would be a good starting point.
- From David C., from Africa :-), via Facebook: For you babe, five minutes. My favorite answer… 🙂
- From Heather S., via Facebook: It depends on the relationship and those involved in it. I don’t think there is a ‘appropriate’ amt of time. It differs with each person you are involved with!
- From Doris C., via Facebook: Um, sometimes never
- From Brian B., via Facebook: As soon as they let you Probably the best answer, especially from this unlikely source
- From Montgomery Maxton (also a blogger), via Facebook: Its okay to sleep with someone after the second date as long as they have disclosed their disease sheet.
- From @JaytheBigLug (also a blogger): third date is still ‘standard,’ but realistic? Follow your gut. Also- hookup v. Relationshippage?
- From @rainie1u (also a blogger): do I care to keep them in my life or am I just curious about their sheet skills? If I want to keep them, I’d wait a month.
- From @Dr_Jared: I think now, you should know them for atleast more than 3 days, but napping is acceptable…
- From @Julian_Hill (also a blogger): 15 mins?
- From @WildCuddler (also a blogger): You mean you’re supposed to wait?
- From @JDDalton (who promises me this is his last Twitter name change): one should wait at least an hour before jumping into bed. You might get a stomach ache otherwise.
- Late Entry: From @winemedineme (also a blogger) (and a pretty good actress, from what I hear): as long as no warning bells go off, why wait?
bleaching your whites is great, despite the smell.
if you wore dress white shirts, i’d share with you the joy of a bleached white shirt that is freshly ironed with starch.